How my divorce at 29 changed how I think about contracts and run my business as a creator

At 29, I wasn’t just finalizing a divorce. I was entering a new era of contractual self-protection. That meant completely rewiring how I think about partnership, boundaries, and my own value.

When you go through something like marriage fraud, you learn firsthand that love without legal protection can cost you more than heartbreak. It can cost you your peace, your assets, and your sense of control. That experience completely changed how I approach contracts, not just in relationships, but in business.

Today, as a content creator, marketer, and former Wall Street professional, I review contracts the same way I now view marriage: No partnership should begin without clarity, accountability, and protection.

Table of Contents

• From prenups to creator partnerships, contracts should protect you.
• The Clauses Creators Need to Know
• Why Every Creator Should Know Their Contracts Clause by Clause

From prenups to creator partnerships, contracts should protect you.

When I got married, I didn’t have a prenup. Like many women, I thought that asking for one would make me look pessimistic or distrustful. But here’s the truth: Contracts aren’t about distrust. They’re about discipline.

A prenup outlines the terms of a partnership. That includes financial commitments, responsibility, and potential dissolution. It’s not romantic, but it’s real. Looking back, I wish I had included certain clauses, specifically an infidelity clause that would have created financial accountability for betrayal and a reputational protection clause that safeguarded my public image in the event of deceit.

My divorce didn’t just teach me about love. It taught me about leverage. What I learned transformed how I now approach my brand partnerships. When someone lies in a marriage, you realize how much damage can happen when transparency is missing. When a brand violates a contract or delays payment, the principle is the same: Integrity without enforcement means nothing.

Today, I’m more intentional with every collaboration. I’m involved in every step — from legal review to creative concept. I’ve learned that being hands-on isn’t controlling. It’s conscious.

My credibility has only grown since I adopted this approach. Brands trust me because I’m direct. My audience trusts me because I’m transparent. And I trust myself because I now know how to protect my name, my likeness, and my work. That approach has landed me authentic brand deals that align with my story.

Almost poetically, my recent partnership with Hulu for their show All’s Fair, which follows powerful female divorce attorneys, brought everything full circle. I broke down three prenup clauses that I would never let love talk me out of again: an infidelity clause, a financial infidelity clause, and a reputational protection clause.

Those clauses weren’t hypothetical. They were lessons I earned the hard way. And the irony is, the same protections that would have safeguarded me in marriage are the same protections every creator needs in business.

Infidelity clauses mirror exclusivity clauses. Financial infidelity parallels late-payment and transparency clauses. And, reputational protection is the exact kind of clause that keeps creators safe if a brand missteps. The overlap is real, and it’s why I take contracts so seriously across every area of my life now.

Because at the end of the day, both marriage and marketing rely on the same thing: trust backed by terms.

The Clauses Creators Need to Know

In the social media industry, creators often jump into partnerships based on opportunity and excitement. But just like in relationships, emotion without structure is dangerous. I’ve learned that a well-written contract is an act of self-respect. It says, I value my work enough to protect it.

When I negotiate with brands now, I think of it as a business marriage — one that should be clear about expectations, timelines, and boundaries. That means my contracts have clauses to keep me protected. These clauses aren’t just about money. They’re about protecting the value I bring to the table.

Here are a few clauses I always pay attention to.

Payment Terms & Late Fees

The creative industry is notorious for late payments. So, I include a late payment clause that ensures compensation for every day past the agreed-upon date. It’s not about greed. I want to make sure that partners are accountable and uphold their end of the bargain.

Usage Rights

Usage rights spell out how the content I make will be used by the brand I’m partnering with. I always make sure to ask:

• How long a brand will use my content.
• If they’ll be running paid ads behind it.
• Where the content will ultimately be published and live.

These details determine the value of the partnership. A one-time Instagram post is not the same as perpetual paid usage across global channels.

Exclusivity Clauses

Exclusivity clauses are the business version of fidelity. If a skincare brand pays me to represent them exclusively, that means I can’t promote other skincare brands during that term. And if I did, there would be a financial consequence.

It’s no different from an infidelity clause in a marriage contract. I like to say, “If he breaks the vows, he should break bread.” Likewise, in business, if you break your promise, you should pay the penalty.

Liability & Reputation Clauses

Liability and reputation clauses are the parts of a contract that protect creators from being blamed, sued, or financially harmed because of something a brand does. You’ll usually see this language appear as

• Limitation of Liability, Indemnification, or Hold Harmless clauses. They are all designed to set clear boundaries around what you are and are not responsible for.
• A limitation of liability clause restricts how much responsibility the creator holds if something goes wrong on the brand’s side, such as product issues, misleading claims, or legal trouble.
• An indemnification clause determines who is financially accountable if damages occur. Ideally, creators should look for mutual protection so that each party is responsible for their own actions.
• A reputation clause is equally important, even though it may not appear under that exact name. It typically shows up as language that allows the creator to pause, suspend, or terminate the partnership if the brand becomes involved in scandal, controversy, discrimination claims, or anything that could harm the creator’s public image.

As a creator, your image is your asset. You can’t afford to be collateral damage in someone else’s downfall.

Why Every Creator Should Know Their Contracts Clause by Clause

The biggest misconception I see in the creator industry is that your lawyer should handle everything. Yes, you need legal representation, but you also need literacy.

As a woman in business, I never want to sign something I don’t understand. I want to know every clause, every term, and every implication. I want to know what happens if a brand doesn’t pay on time, if content is repurposed without approval, or if a campaign gets canceled after deliverables are completed.

When I worked on Wall Street, I had to analyze market data and client mandates in meticulous detail before moving forward on any transaction. I bring that same rigor and attention to detail to my work as a creator. Whether it’s a Wall Street firm or a beauty campaign, the foundation is the same: Protect your interests, define your obligations, and anchor your worth in clear terms.

In reality, social media marketing is still a young industry. It hasn’t yet survived a full economic cycle or a recession. The lack of structure and precedent makes contracts even more critical. You can’t afford to assume “things will just work out.” Hope is not a legal strategy.

Here are the lessons I carry with me:

1. Clarity is compassion. Contracts protect both parties. The clearer the terms, the fewer the misunderstandings.
2. Fidelity isn’t just romantic. It’s professional. Honor your agreements and expect your partners to do the same.
3. Never outsource your understanding. Lawyers are vital, but your literacy is your responsibility.
4. Add the clauses that protect your peace. Late payment, liability, and reputational clauses aren’t optional. They’re essentials.
5. Value yourself enough to negotiate. If a brand wants exclusivity, there’s a price for that. Don’t be afraid to ask for it.
6. Treat your name like an LLC. Protect it, trademark it, and never let anyone misuse it.

Boundaries Win

My divorce at 29 forced me to rethink not just how I love, but how I lead. It taught me that contracts, whether personal or professional, are not about expecting failure. They’re about creating safety, clarity, and respect.

In both business and life, people will test boundaries. But when your terms are clear, your protections are in place, and your value is documented, you don’t just preserve your peace. You protect your power.

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